Adams Family Correspondence, volume 15
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When your Son delivered me your kind letter, little did I think,
it would be so long, before I should reply.1 But my youngest Girl went home the Saturday
after, & I have had a round of heavy cares upon me eversince. It was ten weeks
before we could get any other Girl, & in some of the worst cold weather, &
dreadful Storms which has proved quite too much for Lydia & me. But it could not
be helped. I find the exertions have worn upon both of us, though we should not 358 have felt fatigue so much if a number of our
Boarders had not been taken sick, several threatened with settled fevers, but by care
& attention at first, have happily excaped a long sickness— Abby, & I have
suffered from severe colds, & sore throats— Eliza Hayes had the canker in hers,
& I thought the others caught it from her— Miss Nabby Hayes has had an unsual
humour in her Ear.2 Nothing would give
her ease but poltices, which I applied two or three in a day, for more than a month,
with bathing every day, & you know what work it makes— But they are now both
almost well enough to return to Gloucester; they have sent to their Parents, & our
vacation commences the 20th of this month, which I hope
will afford me a days respite, I do not expect much more, for they are coming &
going the whole time.— I should not have given you this detail, but I thought you
would think me negligent, if you did not know how fully my time has been occupied;
& in bad weather when other families are retired, & have leisure, mine is the
most encumbered, & every energy of Soul, & Body is required to keep them
still, & improving in their respective Studies—
I do not know that I ever more sincerely rejoiced at the return
of the genial warmth of a new born Spring, than at the present moment— Though I feel
an alloy, when I consider, that it speedily brings on the day, when my Son must fix
upon some Spot, where he may be likely to obtain a livelihood— I wish that his path of
duty may appear plain. I know not how to be reconciled to his going at a great
distance from us, & one great Objection is, that those of my particular
acquaintance, who have gone have either lost their lives, or spent one, two, or more
years & then returned disgusted with the People, & dissapointed in all their
Expectations—3 But I know he must fix with a degree of energy,
hard as it may be, & I pray he may do what appears the most eligible—& then we
shall have no cause to repine, though he should not prosper— But he appears to me to
be so little calculated for the rough & thorny path of life, that I tremble for
him— Chesterfield’s maxim “sweetness in the manner, & firmness in the mind,” is
absolutely essential to gain the publick confidence.4 To do good, & to turn the follies, &
passions of mankind to our own advantage requires no small degree of knowledge of
human nature, & of virtue & integrity in our own hearts— I should have written
to him if I could found a Moments leisure— The experienced President, & you, will
please to give him your parental Counsel—
Your Son Thomas I trust will make an excellent Citizen, & his
facetious, engaging manners will ingratiate him; & he will gain the love, &
respect of his native Town,—I think he will be a Blessing to your declining years,
& smooth the pillow of age, & these are qualities, which every Child does not
possess— May he succeed in buisness, & prosper, for the happiness of my friend is with his,
intimately woven—
I was in hopes I should have heard from Quincy, I wish to hear
how your health is, & of that of your family, & of my Sisters, & her
Children— I have not heard a word of William Cranch & his family, since my dear
Sister communicated the melancholly account of their Sickness—5 How is Sister Smith, & Louisa—& Phebe,
I have thought of this long tedious winter— Mrs Foster I have repeatedly written to,
but she hates to write, as well as my William—& I cannot hear one word, so I hope
they are well— I am almost asleep. myself, & hope your repose will be refreshing, that you may awake with renewed strength, is
the wish of / Your affectionate Sister
I wish I could go to Boston & Quincy, but I know I cannot— I hope William has been wise enough to wear his Cotton Shirts— If I could get a good piece of linnen I would make it for him— If Dr Tufts would let him have sufficent to purchase him some, I should be glad, & Mr Locke would bring it, when he returns his Daughter—6 I should have sent some Stockings before, but I have been dissappointd in everything— My Son knows Who I mean by Mr Locke—he is a Merchant, & an excellent Man—
RC (Adams
Papers); addressed: “Mrs Adams / Quincy”; endorsed: “Mrs Peabody / April 16th / 1804.”
Not found.
Abigail (b. 1774) and Eliza Hayes (b. 1791) were the daughters of
Gloucester merchant James and Abigail Warner Hayes. Abigail Hayes was one of the first
women to serve as preceptor at Atkinson Academy (Vital Records
of Gloucester, Massachusetts, to the End of the Year 1849, 3 vols., Topsfield,
Mass., 1917, 1:349, 2:278; Boston Globe, 26 Nov. 1887;
Harriet Webster Marr, Atkinson Academy: The Early Years,
Springfield, Mass., 1940, p. 49).
William Smith Shaw remained in Boston, where he was admitted an
attorney to the Suffolk County Court of Common Pleas in April 1804 (Felt, Memorials of
William Smith Shaw
, p. 181–183, 186).
Philip Dormer Stanhope, 4th Earl of Chesterfield, Letters Written by the Late Right Honourable Philip Dormer
Stanhope, Earl of Chesterfield, to His Son, Philip Stanhope, 2 vols., London,
1774, 2:99.
In a 25 Feb. letter to Mary Smith Cranch (DLC:Shaw Family Papers), Peabody thanked her sister for her letter received “several weeks since” and lamented Cranch’s report of the “melancholy detail of the distresses of my dear Nephews Family,” for which see LCA to AA, 11 Feb., and note 2, above.
Possibly Boston fish merchant Joseph 360 Locke (1767–1838) and his stepdaughter, Anna
Maria Foster (ca. 1795–1868), who was the daughter of Locke’s second wife, Mary
Ingersoll Foster (John Goodwin Locke, Book of the Lockes: A
Genealogical and Historical Record of the Descendants of William Locke, of
Woburn, Boston, 1853, p. 47, 139; Carol Rinderknecht, A
Checklist of American Imprints, 1830–1839, Author Index, Metuchen, N.J., 1989,
p. 164).