Adams Family Correspondence, volume 4
1782-05-03
I am conscious my dear Brother that I have appeared deficient in my duty and affection by
neglecting to write you often. I have very little encouragement to continue a correspondance
without any return from you. I do not believe you deficient in writing; it is a disagreable
circumstance that we receive so small a part of the letters that are written. Mamma has
receiv'd letters from Pappa and Mr. Thaxter as late as December and from yourself so late as
October from Petersbourg. I was not made happy by one line, have you forgot your Sister. No
such an idea shall ever dwell in my mind. We lament the loss of the letters, Gillon had in his
possession. You will no doubt hear of his conduct ere this reaches you. Charles after many
distresses and dangers has safe landed on his native shore. The anxiety we suffered from an
apprehension of his danger was great: it is now fully 320recompensed by his safe return to those friends that dearly love him. He was ever a
favourite you know, and still continues to possess the amiable qualities that in his younger
years gained the affection of his friends. You, my Brother are far, very far removed from your
friends and connections: it is a painfull reflection to those that have parted with a son and
a Brother. It is not the person that goes abroad in quest of any object whether Knowledge,
business, or pleasure that is pained by the seperation. Every object they meet
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You are I hope sensible of the peculiar advantages you are receiving. Very few at any age of life possess so great a share. It is your own fault if you neglect to make a right improvement of the talents that are put into your hands; your reflections in a future day will be brightened if you can look back on your past conduct conscious of not having deviated from the path of your duty. I will not draw a contrary supposition.
Some persons Lives are scarcely clouded by any event unfavourable to their happiness, fortune seems to court their favour and pour liberally her blessings on their wishes. We see another character struggling with events through life: all their intentions appear to be frustrated, and every wish is clouded by a disappointment. To judge from the few years you have passed in Life the former seems descriptive. But do not be deceived by appearances; she may yet have in store for you, trials and troubles unthought of; neither distress yourself with events that may never take place but learn this necessary lesson neither to be too much elated with prosperity nor depressed with adversity. Could I anticipate your soon return it would give me much pleasure. The pleasure we shall receive from a mutual exchange of friendship and sentiments when the happy period shall arrive will I hope be increased greatly by so long a seperation. I know of no opportunity of conveyance soon, but whenever this reaches you, let it remind you of the pleasure you ever give your Sister by answering her letters. May you my Brother return and answer the expectations 321of your Friends is the sincere wish of your affectionate friend and sister.
1782-05-04
I have sent to Mr. Hodshon1 since your Departure to send the Packer, but he cannot come 'till Monday, which I suspected as this is a busy day all over the World. As soon as he comes on Monday, I will set him to work and give all the Assistance that depends on me. There is between twenty and thirty Tons of Turf, and a few Bushels of Coal, which Stephens seems very desirous of having. He does not ask it as a Gift, but imagine it would not be unacceptable.2 This lays with You, and it shall be sent forward if You choose or left to be sold. —There will be some empty Bottles, which the Wineseller had better take, paying the ordinary Price. However as You please. The Baskets will take them all I believe.
I have seen Mr. Barclay, and he is much better—desires his best Respects and wishes You better Health.
Best Compliments to Mr. Dumas and Family.
John Hodshon, of Hodshon & Zoon, was an Amsterdam merchant with whom JA sometimes did business and had occasional correspondence. See also note 2.
Joseph Stephens (sometimes Stevens), JA's servant since JA had
first come to Europe, was making plans to marry and set up a shop in Amsterdam selling silks,
linens, &c., especially to American sailors and other visitors from America. He expected
to obtain capital from Hodshon to buy his goods, but a little later was trying to obtain
credit and/or employment from other firms. By the end of June, according to Thaxter, Stephens
and “his Family” were ill and in considerable distress. See Stephens to JA, 6 Feb., 23
May (Adams Papers); JA to Willink & van Staphorst and to Ingraham & Bromfield, 13 June
(LbC's, Adams Papers); Thaxter to
JA, 29 June (Adams Papers). In his recollections many years later,
JA wrote that Stephens married “a very pretty English girl” and not too long
afterward set sail for America, where the ship apparently never arrived (to the Editor of the
Bostow Patriot, 14 Feb. 1812, published 29 April 1812). What
happened to his wife and their shop does not appear.